how to fight well
"Do you guys often fight with each other?" A question some might ask to measure health of the relationship. Through, let's say, 10-15 fights in approximately a year, I found the answer to the million dollar question, how do you know that he is the one. I was a lil bit worry after first half dozen of our conflicts. Why did we clash? We generally are in the same frequency and perceive each other well. Yet, our conflicts resolves around this 1-2 specific pain points - our Achilles heel, which comes from our younger trauma. Why did we fall in the same pit? I made peace that fighting is inevitable, no matter how similar or in synced a couple is. How can a two persons coming from different background, experiences, culture, can unite without clashing or overlapping with each other? Not to mention, expectations of both are haunting. As resolutive as I wanted to be, there would be unforeseen conflicts ahead as life evolves and season changes. Solution might not arrive in time
